Advanced Positions

Face to Face Sex

The rocking horse

This requires a fair amount of strength in your legs and thighs.

The man takes up a squatting position, probably on a bed or a firm surface like the floor, and his partner then sits on him.

She helps to support her weight with her feet and legs, but the main sensation in this position comes from her ability to rock backwards and forwards while her partner's penis is inside her.

It's also interesting to try a variation where the man rocks back and forth while his partner remains still, moving with him only as he moves.

Crossed swords

When you take up this position for sex, the male partner sits as shown in the illustration with his upper body supported on his hands.

He can keep his legs straight or bend them, depending on what is most suitable and pleasurable. His partner sits on him as shown, bending his erect penis forwards so that it enters her.

This means that men with a very upright erection may not be able to enjoy this position as their penises will not bend forward enough.

Assuming that the couple can get into this position, she can control all the movement, the rhythm and the speed of thrusting, since she has purchase with her arms to allow her to thrust from her pelvis.

One great advantage is that the couple can enjoy looking at each other during sex, though of course they can't really touch or kiss.

The Goddess embrace

Sitting on the edge of a chair or bed, the woman allows her partner to penetrate her while he kneels.

Clearly, the position depends on the couple getting the height right, so you may have to adjust the height of the woman's bottom before it is easy for the man to enter her.

He also may need some cushions under his knees for comfort.

Once inside her, he can embrace her tightly as she clasps her legs around his back. By holding her close, he can get deep into her, and he has control of the speed and rhythm of sex.

Climbing the hill

We'd only recommend this position for very flexible or adventurous lovers!

The male partner lies as shown, with a firm erection, which he holds for his partner as she guides herself down on top of him.

She must sit slowly and gently so as not to bend his penis, though if she can get onto him, she has control of the movement.

He basically lies there while his partner rides up and down him, using her legs to move up and down. The man gets extra stimulation by watching his partner's breasts and his penis moving in and out of his partner's vagina.

The spider's web

This is an exciting position - if the man's back is flexible enough for him to get into it!

It also helps if he has a long penis, though this is not essential if the couple raise her bottom with a pillow so that her vagina is at the right height for him to enter her.

The easiest way to get into this position is for her to shuffle towards her man as he sits waiting for her.

If he leans forward and holds her shoulders, he will be able to gain enough purchase to thrust slightly, though movement is limited. He is basically entering her from below and pushing up, since her bottom and pelvis are slightly higher than his.

Sitting Sex

The chair

To enjoy this position you need to be on a hard surface - a bed will rock too much and you may not be able to stay upright.

The man sits as shown, holding his legs behind the knees so that he forms a stable base for his partner to sit on.

She makes herself comfortable, resting some of her weight on him and some on her legs, taking his penis inside her vagina as she lowers herself onto him.

In this position, either he or she can move, but it's a good idea to decide who is going to rock or thrust before you start, since if you both try and move out of synch, things can get a bit confusing.

Obviously the man has easy access to his partner's breasts, which he can kiss and caress as the couple make love.

The X factor

You start in the chair position shown above, this time on a soft surface like a bed, then have the man hold the woman's wrists as she lowers herself down onto the bed between his legs.

Look carefully at the picture so you get the angle of your legs correct, otherwise the position won't work!

The idea is that the man can pull his partner towards him in a rocking motion, though to do this he must be fairly strong and she must trust his ability to hold her.

It's a great exercise in trust, and fun to play with, though you may find it is tiring and you are better returning to the chair position above.

You can perhaps use a variation where you hold each other around the back to support each other in a sitting position (see another form of this sitting position below).

Possession

This is a very erotic and exciting position which allows the man to penetrate his partner slowly and deeply.

He sits down, with his erection ready to receive his partner, who then sits on him, perhaps teasing him by playing with his penis, using it to stimulate her clitoris before she lets him into her body.

As she plays with him like this, he may get more and more aroused, until the sexual tension is so great that he simply wishes to posses her completely!

The longer the build-up, and the more erotic the foreplay, the more powerful and exciting the man's orgasm will be when he finally lets go and explodes into her!

The couch

The male partner relaxes with his back well supported so that he can form a comfortable place for his partner to sit between his knees, which are raised slightly off the bed.

His feet must have some purchase, so that they don't slide down the bed when his partner sits on him - the whole idea is that his body forms a couch for her to relax into. He can penetrate her easily, and the more she raises her legs, the deeper he will be able to enter her.

Note the position of her thighs and his head, and the couple's hands, both of whom have clear access to her clitoris, making it possible that she will reach orgasm during intercourse.

This is a great position for men who ejaculate quickly, as the erotic connection will keep him erect even if you rest still very so often. That will help him to control his arousal and slow down his progress towards orgasm.

Standing Sex Positions

A well-known position, but one which a man may find is more suited to fantasy than reality!

It takes considerable strength and skill to support your partner like this while you penetrate her, and if you drop her you run a severe risk of damaging your penis!

Only recommended for strong couples with a great deal of stamina, and perhaps also where the woman is of slight build.

Once you're in this position, you can thrust powerfully or gently, helped by your partner if she wraps her legs around your waist.

The forward bend

This is is a position which occupies a lot of time in most men's minds! Many men are highly aroused by women's bottoms, so the prospect of making love in this position can be extremely exciting.

Of course, sex in a standing position like this can be fast and furious, which may add to the excitement, and it allows a man to express his most fundamental sexual urges: this position may even be the most powerful expression of male sexuality!

Men love penetrating a woman from behind, and seeing their penis moving in and out of her body as they do so. Since this also allows deep thrusting and lets a man control the movements during sex, it's not hard to see why it's such a favorite!

 For a woman, the excitement can come from knowing she is arousing her man to such an extent, or from the sheer lustfulness of the sex, which can be liberating for a woman if she has inhibitions or is slightly shy.

 This can be a very exciting position for spontaneous sex, especially if the woman teases the man beforehand, perhaps by no wearing any underwear, so he can throw her skirt over her back and take her from behind!

The totem pole

Again, a position which is ideal for strong couples, or those where the woman is slight of build.

The man must be careful as he lifts the woman and guides her onto his erect penis, for if she slips while his erection is inside her, there is a risk of a snapped penis.

This is both painful and can lead to Peyronie's disease. Nonetheless, if the man is strong enough to comfortably support his partner, this can be an exciting position because it is so unusual.

The man's ability to thrust is limited, but he can gain movement if his partner's bottom is resting on, say, a table or some other suitable object. Alternatively, he can grasp his partner's buttocks as he moves her back and forth on his penis.

Reverse cowgirl

This is another famous position. It's one which occupies a favorite place in the fantasy lives of many men, one which allows a man to adopt a rather more submissive attitude in sex.

If you like to take a more relaxed position as your partner rides you from time to time, then this is ideal for you.

There's no challenge in getting into the position as long as the woman holds her partner's penis as she inserts it into her vagina, and there's nothing difficult about it - the excitement lies in the fact that it's a perfect way to reverse roles, to give the woman the opportunity to control the speed, rhythm, and pace of sex, and to allow the man to relax as he enjoys the attention of his partner.

Head to head

Although many men like the missionary position more than any other, it's worth trying this variation, which can provide a whole new range of different sensations.

The woman takes more control of sex when she is on top, and again, as with the reverse cowgirl, the man can relax and "let it all happen" as he savors the site of his partner moving on top of him.

Lap dancing

Again, this is not a technically difficult position, but it is a highly enjoyable one, since the couple can kiss and caress, the man can touch his partner's breasts, and she can move in whatever way gives them both most pleasure.

Like all positions where the woman has the dominant role, this one enables her to move in the way that best stimulates her clitoris and G spot.

The cowgirl

In our view, this is a more exciting version of the Reverse Cowgirl shown above, in that the partners can look at each other as they make love.

The woman has greater flexibility of movement - she can move forwards or backwards to find the angle of her body that gives them both most pleasure.

The lunge

This is a powerful position, in the sense that the man can penetrate his partner deeply and she can enjoy the sense of exposure which comes from opening her legs and exposing her vulva to his gaze as he enters her.

 After penetration, he can then lean forward so that his whole body presses on her chest, perhaps giving her a sense of containment and pressure which she may find exciting.

Certainly, if he can position himself correctly, his body will press on her clitoris, and she may be able to enjoy a powerful orgasm.

The scorpion

An unusual position which can offer new and perhaps rather unusual sensations.

The woman lies on her back, with her legs apart, and the man penetrates her while facing in the opposite direction.

She then puts her legs on his back, and he can support himself on his forearms.

Thrusting is not easy, so the man can try instead making circular movements of his pelvis, or he can grip his penis in his hand and move it around to stimulate his partner while it is in her vagina.

Another exciting thing is that the man and woman cannot see each other, which adds a whole new dimension to sex, and she can surprise him with unexpected caresses of his testicles, legs or back.

Deepest of all

A close connection between the two partners is a prerequisite for this incredibly intimate position.

The woman is completely exposed to her partner's gaze, which he may well find erotic. Her position hints at complete abandonment, deep penetration - simply wild sex in fact!

For many men, nothing is more exciting than such deep penetration, for the sensations around the head of the penis can be profound, and the erotic appeal of the man's testicles banging on his partner's vulva is considerable.

The drill

Although this might be the stuff of fantasy, it's a very difficult position to get into and it's very difficult for the woman to move at all. If you want to try it, put a cushion under the woman's hips. It may help if she is able to put her hands over her head so she can push herself upwards onto his penis.

But once again, unless he has a penis which bends down when it's erect, it may be difficult, if not impossible, for him to insert into her vagina in this position.

The great advantage of this position is the tightness which it lends to the woman's vagina.

This can add greatly to the pleasure of both lovers, and since the man can move his partner's legs in any direction he chooses, it is possible for him to control the sensations which both he and she experience.

The man can also allow his passion to take control of him as he thrusts vigorously into his partner. She can play with her clitoris, thereby ensuring that she comes while they are making love.

Rear entry or doggy style

A truly passionate and exciting position, perhaps the most exciting position of all for many men.

But it's also very exciting for women, since it allows both sexes to express their sexual passion. The woman kneels with her head down or her head up as she chooses, and the man kneels behind her on all fours and enters her while gripping her around the hips or waist.

He can thrust hard or soft, and she can also thrust with energy and passion. A set of pillows or cushions under her stomach will support her and may make it more comfortable for her. An exciting position for both sexes.

The corkscrew

If you are woman who never comes during intercourse, try this position. It has the effect of stimulating the clitoris as your man thrusts.

The best way to do this is to lie on the side of the bed on your side with your legs bent double.

This has the effect of exposing your vulva and tightening your vagina, which will make the position appealing and pleasurable for your man. As he thrusts into you, his movements pull on your vaginal lips, which stretches the tissues around the clitoris: this tension may help to make you come.

Your man can also caress your breasts and increase your pleasure with a little nipple play!

Side by side sex positions

The scorpion

The woman holds her legs bent while she keeps them close together. This means they will grip the man's penis as he enters her.

This is a good position for anal sex, so he may be entering either her vagina or her anus. She can turn as he enters so that she can see his face, and this allows the couple to exchange loving gazes as they make love, though probably not to kiss.

If you want to move, the best movements are likely to be gentle ones, though the penetration will be deep. You can mould your bodies together, and the position of the woman's legs may allow for stimulation of her clitoris as her man moves, which brings her to orgasm during intercourse.

The mayfly

Start with both of you lying down. The woman should lie with her back to her partner, and as you can see in the illustration, she will then bend a leg back over the man's thigh or hip.

The man can then penetrate his partner as he holds her leg up in the air. It's an exciting position which offers many different sensations from normal sex, and the proximity of the woman's buttocks to the man's genitals adds a frisson of excitement for both partners.

Twin peaks

If the man has a much larger penis than normal, this is going to be a favorite position!

If you are the woman, lie on your side, and have your man approach from behind ready to make love.

Raise one leg, and sling it over his waist, as he enters you.

This is effectively a modified side by side position, which prevents deep penetration yet allows the man to enter and thrust with energy - and because her buttocks and thighs are around the base of his penis, even if he is not fully in her, he will still feel as if he has entered her deeply. Her clitoris and breasts are easily reached by both partners.