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Positions for slow, romantic, gentle, loving sex

The romantic sex positions!

It's a mistake to think that gentle sex has to be dull.

On the contrary, there are many times in any relationship where a slow, romantic session of lovemaking suits the mood of the couple much more than a fast and furious bout of penetration and thrusting.

By its very nature, slow and romantic sex implies you'll be taking it easy, and so all the positions need to be ones that you can sustain for long periods of time without getting tired.

These positions have other uses too, apart from helping a couple to bond emotionally.

If a man only has a partial erection, or no erection at all, he may be able to enjoy penetration into his partner's vagina if they lie side by side, taking their time, and using lubricant to get his penis into her.

Often, if he grips around the base of his penile shaft as he presses in, then remains inside his partner, he will become more fully erect as the couple lie together.

1 Side by side sex for gentle lovemaking

Side by side positions are certainly the best for long, slow lovemaking.

By entering your partner and remaining still rather than thrusting into her, especially if you have gone in from behind so that her buttocks are in your crotch, your desire will slowly increase and you'll both get more turned on.

As you get more turned on, your sex may gather pace and become faster and more vigorous - or it may not, depending on the mood and what suits you at the time.

Often if a couple lie together, moving their hips gently from time to time, and talking, cuddling and kissing, the eventual orgasm may be even more powerful than one you get in a "quickie".

This is because the slow sexual build up in this position allows a lot of sexual energy to accumulate. It's also very easy for the man or his partner to play with her clitoris and bring her to orgasm as they enjoy their intimate connection.

When a couple start having sex in the man on top position, and she brings her legs up, they can roll over onto their sides and finish up in the facing side by side position: this is shown in the two photos below.

In this position, most men, even those who are usually quick to ejaculate, can continue making love for a long time.

2 Sitting positions for slow, romantic sex

Though sitting sex positions tend to be some of the most underrated and underused positions we have for our sexual interactions, they can be highly enjoyable, very intimate and they are perfect for slow romantic love.

3 Other ideas

The photos below a variety of sex positions, all of which lend themselves to slow and romantic lovemaking.

4 Positions suitable for overcoming delayed ejaculation in men

Delayed ejaculation, also called retarded ejaculation is a condition is caused by intrinsic systemic low levels of sexual arousal - a man may have a rock hard erection but simply not be aroused enough to reach the point of ejaculation during intercourse.

Fortunately there are various ways you can cure this kind of problem, called male orgasmic disorder, using self-help treatment programs, which will quickly and effectively help a man to ejaculate normally during sex.

Also, using man on top sex positions, with the deep thrusts it permits, may help as it increases arousal and is one of the positions in which men tend to come more quickly during sex.

5 Sex positions for a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse

Many women would love to reach orgasm during intercourse but find that they cannot do so. However, in general, all that is required is some position in which the woman's clitoris can be stimulated by the man as they make love.

Couples who find they can help the female partner reach orgasm during intercourse through vaginal thrusting alone will almost certainly have two factors working in their favor: the man is able to control his ejaculation so that he can stimulate his partner with vaginal thrusts for a long time; and they are using some position (probably rear entry) which stimulates her G spot.

They may also be anatomically arranged, so to speak, to favour orgasms during intercourse: for example, the woman may have a clitoris which lies near the opening of her vagina so that it receives some indirect stimulation during sex.

In the two positions below, either partner can stimulate the woman's clitoris as they make love, or a vibrator can be used between the couple to bring her to orgasm as they make love.

Any variation of man on top where the woman's clitoris is exposed will provide the same opportunity for clitoral stimulation. Equally, woman on top will provide the female partner with a chance of clitoral stimulation and orgasm. Side by side positions such as this offer ample opportunity for a woman's clitoris to receive stimulation during lovemaking.